I went to a new networking/business support group last night. It was the first meeting and I’m really excited about the whole thing.
What kind of meeting? It was the first meeting of Missoula Mom Owned Businesses. We brainstormed and talked about struggles and supported each other.
Having a business is hard, y’all. This year, I rented a studio space. And I’m hardly ever there. It says “by appointment only” on the door. Why?
Well, sometimes I’m impulsive and I just do things. Sometimes it’s great and other times, not so great. One of my kids is still preschool age and my schedule still revolves around him. I love him to the moon and back and I wouldn’t change it for the world.
So…that’s where I am. Next year, he starts school for full days and that might have been a better time to jump in with both feet instead of tiptoeing in with half a foot. haha. Anyway… I work there, around our schedules and I have had some gorgeous sessions in the space. There are things I love about the space and things I have noticed are deal breakers for me. That’s another post though…
Last night’s meeting was awesome. And at one point, someone said something about helping people find their “why”. You know…the reason you do the thing. The thing that makes you keep going when you feel like giving in or things are super hard.
Yeah…I kept meaning to sit and really figure it out. I’ve floated along for a long time just bouncing from one photography genre to the next, trying to find it. Except weddings…I do love shooting weddings. Do I need a why for that? Eh…probably something more than I love people in love and shiny pretty things. haha So far that has seemed to work ok. 😉
Last night on the way home from this meeting of badass moms who work so hard to balance family and business … a voice popped into my head. And it made me cry.
At my last boudoir session I heard something from my client that has been said to me lots of times. But I really heard it this time. Maybe I need a few times hearing something to really hear it. She came in to have a session to give as a gift. And at the end of the session as she was leaving she said, “You know? This ended up being as much for me as it is for him.” She felt so good about herself and her body that she was thanking me for reminding her of herself.
There it is.
Ladies, you are my why.
We don’t see ourselves clearly sometimes, for whatever reason. Or we have forgotten to take time for us because we’re so busy with our work or caring for others, or both.
I understand these struggles. My body is changed after having children. I’ve hit my 40s and I’m noticing my face is a little different now. We suffered a loss last year and ate our feelings, so I have found extra of me this year on my…everywhere. haha I spend a lot of time with my children and husband and my business gets pushed to the side. Again…I choose this and I’m not complaining. I wouldn’t change that. It would be great if I had a time-turner like Hermione.
But this is what we do. We run the world.
Nothing in my business makes me happier than hearing that I have reminded you of your own awesomeness. That I have used my gifts of extreme awkward goofiness and empathy to make you feel so comfortable with me that you might forget there’s a camera. That connection in your eyes in a photo is everything.
So, look for a couple of changes to the website in the coming weeks.
Because, you, ladies, are my why and my website needs to do a better job of representing that.